It’s been quiet on Dating LA, but quiet doesn’t mean things are going well. Quiet means things are quiet, and maybe I haven’t felt like sharing.
Things aren’t great.
It’s not terrible, but we’re not connecting as much as before. It’s been 4 years and at this point we’re either moving on together or we’re just moving on. Tomorrow He leaves for another business trip, which I think is a good time to ask Him to envision His future.
Does it have me in it?
We need to work on this relationship. If He doesn’t want to then I know what I have to do.
“Though the murky concept known as ‘love’ has been recorded for all of human history, it was almost never a justification for marriage. ‘Love was considered a reason not to get married,’ says Abbott. ‘It was seen as lust, as something that would dissipate. You could have love or lust for your mistress, if you’re a man, but if you’re a woman, you had to suppress it. It was condemned as a factor in marriage.’”—The Real History of Love & Marriage (via misterjt)
“We still don’t have a good way of talking about pursuing friendship. Years of style-section trend stories have documented modern problems with finding and forging friendships. The term “friend crush” gets thrown around, or its gendered cousin, the “girl crush.” (See the lovely ’zine and popular Tumblr on the subject.) And, as has become de rigueur for low-level social insecurities, a few apps have appeared to help people forge friendships. A new one called Ketchuppp promises to help you make time for people you love platonically. And when I interviewed Tinder co-founder Justin Mateen, he told me they hope the app will eventually be widely used to find friends, not just make dates. “In every kind of relationship there’s a person being pursued and a person who’s a pursuer,” he says.”—Ann Friedman in Be Mine? Why It’s Smart to Court Your Friends (via misterjt)
“There is an opportunity opening up in which you can explore more freedom in the workplace. Your ideas are blending well with others, and those around you respect your innovative and boundless approach. You will go further than you expect.”—Career horoscope tomorrow…
“Working with others is highly favored around September 5. A tasteful partner will offer valuable advice on improving a project. You don’t like to get caught up in petty details as a general rule. By paying extra attention to the fine points, you’ll attract favorable publicity. Be sure to share the spotlight with your collaborator. You will be given a plum position on September 19. This will be cause for celebration. Host a party or take your family to dinner at a fancy restaurant. Your loved ones are greatly responsible for your success. Their emotional support has helped you withstand cutbacks and other job-related stress.”—My career horoscope, September 2013
Someone who has a rather shortsighted approach on the issue at hand is creating problems for you. Beware of those who oppose you just because they don’t understand. There is no reason for you to get bent out of shape because of someone else’s error.
Someone did fuck up today. And it wasn’t me. I worked 14 hours every day last week because I was covering for someone, working hard NOT TO FUCK UP. I did everything that was asked. It’s not my problem if someone didn’t ask me the right questions.
An important conversation with someone is not likely to be very clear today. Everything you say seems to be misinterpreted. Don’t make any formal agreements without getting anything in writing. Otherwise, you will be in trouble later on down the road.
That important conversation? Probably what the fuck happened today, and how to prevent it. How about get proper training? How about not agreeing to projects that set up the company to fail? How about stop acting like pussies?
Fuck them if they say any shit about me and my co-worker.
Your home may seem lonely today, Pisces, and love may seem to be absent. A family member, perhaps your love partner, could be away for the night, making the place seem far colder and emptier than it is. This isn’t a good night to stay home. Go out and visit a friend or go to a movie. You need to keep yourself occupied until your partner returns.
He’s away for work most of this week. He’s going to be gone a lot. Sometimes I go with him. Not this time. I have too much work to skip work.
Although I really want to.
Had a good interview on Friday. Heard nothing though. I want to give up on the job search, but that’s basically giving up on my career.
Maybe the world is telling me to give up on my career.
I put in for time off in a couple weeks. I’ve been picking up everyone else’s slack, and all I get is “you should do better” attitude.
Then in a month and a half I’ll be tagging along with Him and His trip to Florida.
In 1905, George Bernard Shaw received a piece of fan mail from an aspiring playwright initially known only as “Miss Charming” that would ultimately result in the following unique letter. Miss Charming was in fact a 24-year-old lady named Erica Cotterill, and Shaw was so intrigued by her…
Very clever, Shaw. I actually can’t stand this man, but the incident is timeline.
“i think your post indicates your problem. you SHOULD be interviewing & rejecting them, long before they can accept/reject you. if you change your perspective, you’ll probably start getting offers. when i go in thinking “I know why you should hire me - but tell me why I should work for you”, I get the offer EVERY time. Seriously. If you need incentive, read Job Interviews For Dummies… that’s what taught me to totally change the game. And, still, your magic job just hasn’t met you yet.”—leendadll
“There were several other really compelling opportunities being presented to me within the company and that vesting schedule was nice, but it would have meant professional cardiac arrest. No heartbeat. Not passionate. And I needed to create something that got me pumping 200 bpm.”—
Hunter W. - Partner at Homebrew VC (fmr YouTube, Google, Second Life product lead)
Since I can’t find new work that will pay me to do the great job that I do, I’ve decided to volunteer my skills for pro-bono work. I enlisted with a foundation seeking people who will make websites for charities. I have my orientation in a few weeks.
Other updates - we have a friend who’s a winemaker, and He volunteered me to make our friend’s website. For wine.
Thank you for applying to [agency] and the Senior Digital Producer role. We have reviewed your resume and application, and, at this time, have decided to pursue other candidates whose background and qualifications more closely meet our desired criteria. We encourage you to visit our career website in the future for new job listings, and we wish you the best in your career search.
You didn’t have to tell me that I didn’t get the job. I know that already.
Fuck you, agencies. You wouldn’t know a good, hard-working producer if you had one working for another shitty place that applied to work for you. Begging to do a good job for another person is so degrading, and humiliating.