From Letters of Note
Here’s some sound, stern relationship advice from the great Noël Coward, in the form of an invaluable letter he sent to his good friend, Marlene Dietrich, in 1956. He was replying to a recent, downbeat missive from Dietrich, in which she had detailed the latest in a long line of depressing “episodes” involving her on-off lover of a few years, Yul “Curly” Brynner.
4. Be the mirror.
Your husband is the mirror in which you see yourself. And the things you say to him give him an image of himself too, which he will believe. You want him to believe it, so make it good. Be a mirror that reflects something positive: you’re smart, you’re successful, you’re fantastic in the sack, you’re a great provider, you’re the best. Can you MAKE him any of these things just by telling him he is? I don’t know, but consider this: the alternative really sucks.
Your magnetism is strong and can help you become a major flirt this year. If you want to make a serious commitment, it’s an extremely lucky year for marriage.
The New Moon August 17 is a special day a romantic date with your sweetheart, or meeting someone new. Your ability to sense what others want and need can contribute to deeper intimacy. It may also tempt you to take advantage of someone who may be more serious about a relationship than you.
Things seem to be clicking more than usual between He and I. I’m not sure the source of the change, but maybe he’s just less stressed out.
My parents finally visited our apartment. The week before their visit I was on a home decorating and cleaning kick. I bought so many options for storage for His shit that He dumps everywhere. I don’t mind that you don’t put stuff in their appropriate place, but at least place your mess in this big box, so everything will look nice.
It’s no one’s fault, really, though if I had to, I’d be inclined to blame my parents. Even with all the cruel and unusual, but so very real, traditions of an Immigrant-American family, there was one that my parents made the mistake of never instituting: the Birth Order Marriage rule (BOM).
- The Delicious Life